Well, here it is: I’ve lived it all—the highs, the heartbreaks, the new beginnings, and everything in between. My journey into the world of dating advice wasn’t exactly planned. It was born out of my own experiences, a lot of reflection, and ultimately, a desire to help others feel less alone on this unpredictable path.
Like many people, I didn’t grow up with a blueprint for dating. I married my college sweetheart, and we built a life together that included a son I adore. After fifteen years, that chapter came to a close, and I found myself navigating something completely unfamiliar—dating again, in the digital age.
Suddenly, I was back in the dating pool, with online profiles and swiping apps that didn’t exist when I was younger. And to make things more complicated, I lived in a small town where my professional life was well-known. Privacy was a luxury I didn’t have.
I jumped into online dating, optimistic and hopeful. And, as fate would have it, I met someone I already knew through Match.com. It felt serendipitous. Within a year, we were married—but twelve months later, we were divorced.
It wasn’t until my third relationship—one that began offline, through mutual acquaintances—that I thought I’d found lasting love. We married in Big Bend, surrounded by breathtaking views and all the hopes of a beautiful future. But life had other plans. The pandemic changed everything, and after much soul-searching, we made the painful decision to part ways.
Through all of these experiences, I couldn’t help but wonder: Why is modern dating so complicated? And more importantly, What am I doing wrong?
It’s humbling to admit, but at one point, I had to face the possibility that maybe the common denominator in my failed relationships was... me.
I wrote a song during that time called “Maybe It’s Me” because I knew I needed to grow and understand myself better if I ever hoped to have a healthy, lasting relationship. And that’s exactly what I set out to do.
I poured myself into understanding the modern dating landscape—reading books, conducting interviews, and observing the subtle art of flirting in real life. I noticed patterns in my own journey and in the stories of others. And I realized that a lot of people were just like me: hopeful, searching, sometimes lost, but still believing in love.
That’s what led me to write my book, “Swipe, Match, Love: New Rules for Modern Dating”. It’s a guide for anyone who feels overwhelmed by dating apps, confused by modern relationship norms, or just tired of feeling like they’re doing it wrong. It’s a book for people who, like me, want to find love—but also want to find themselves along the way.
Dating is a journey of self-discovery. It’s about more than finding someone to spend your life with; it’s about learning who you are, what you want, and what kind of life you want to build.
What I’ve learned—and what I share in my book—is that there are no hard and fast rules in love. But there are ways to navigate it with more confidence, more clarity, and more kindness toward yourself.
I’m here to share my story, my insights, and hopefully, help you along your journey too.
Thanks for being here. Let’s figure this out together.